Question
Quite a few people have asked us, "how did you decide which twin goes first?" Actually, it's been sort of interesting to both Lynn and I as to how the scenario played out.
Originally, I was the one who was talking up PS. I would kid Lynn, "Next year, instead of us going skiing, I'm getting a face lift." She'd kinda kid me, "Well, guess I'll be sending you a pos/mmh/product/chemicalpeel/home_peels/tca/index.vm?procid=4&catid=1045&subcatid=1047" target=_blank>tcard from Aspen." But THEN Lynn lost 30 lbs....and, suddenly, her miraculous "ever-young" face starting catching up with our chronological age! We both agreed, 2006 was The Year.
So, there we were, sitting in our PS's office a coupla months ago, and the Dr. said, "Who's going first?" Now, I sorta wanted to get it over with and figured that Lynn wasn't as gung ho as I initially was. But, just as I was saying, "Well, I'd sorta like to," I was overridden by this authoritive, Moses-like proclamation of, "ME!" I looked over at Lynn, who rarely pushes her preferences, and said, "Well, okay, we can talk about it." And Lynn looked straight at the Dr and said, "ME!" And I said, "So you don't want to talk about it?" And Lynn started levitating a foot off the chair. And I said, "Well, alrighty then."
We have had MANY laughs about that afternoon. I've asked her many times 'why' it was so important to her (it was sort of okay with me either way) and Lynn says she only knew that she felt it was "right" - that she was the "elder twin" (8 minutes!) and she felt this inner need to go thru this first. It was certainly nothing to do with 'self-interest' or anything like that. She just felt it was "right"...that her instincts told her she needed to "clear the way" before it was okay for me.
So....that's the story. We'll probably be forever talking about this... What 'vibes' made Lynn determined to be the first 'on the table'...first into the 'unknown.' Right now, I'm just so relieved that Lynn's surgery is over! And having been thru it, I hope she's equally relieved knowing that it was no big deal and I'll be fine!
Alice (and Lynn!) (Twisted Sisters...hee-hee)


Answer
Thanks Alice, that IS interesting - yes, I was wondering too about your decision process
Growing up I had two close friends who are twins (although they were faternal). As we got closer to college, they kind of each went their different ways, and I ended up a little more close to one of them - (We went the first two years of college together, and hung out a lot). To this day I still share a close bond with them. As an old Sociology major (I had a double degree, sociolgy was my favorite!!) I used to study countless "Identical Twin" studies!
At any rate, you two are so special, and I am envious of the wonderful bond you both share (my sister is 3 years younger than me, and although we are close, we can be polar opposites at times - can make for some rip roaring fights ).
Thanks to you both for all your contibutions and sharing your journey with us. I feel like I have two more wonderful twin friends.
(((hugs)))
Kaye


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Thanks Alice, that IS interesting - yes, I was wondering too about your decision process
Growing up I had two close friends who are twins (although they were faternal). As we got closer to college, they kind of each went their different ways, and I ended up a little more close to one of them - (We went the first two years of college together, and hung out a lot). To this day I still share a close bond with them. As an old Sociology major (I had a double degree, sociolgy was my favorite!!) I used to study countless "Identical Twin" studies!
At any rate, you two are so special, and I am envious of the wonderful bond you both share (my sister is 3 years younger than me, and although we are close, we can be polar opposites at times - can make for some rip roaring fights ).
Thanks to you both for all your contibutions and sharing your journey with us. I feel like I have two more wonderful twin friends.
(((hugs)))
Kaye
Thanks so much, Kaye, for your very sweet note. From what Lynn and I have heard from our buddies over the years, it's "interesting" having twins as friends. In grade school, we shared friends. Then, Lynn and I went to separate colleges and, from thereon, we each made close individual friends. But what happened, was that eventually we all met and my friends became her friends and vice versa. Altho, the friends we each met stayed 'closer' to the twin they met first! (We have a similar taste in friends.)
After college, we lived and worked in London, but Lynn stayed on and I came back to NY and got into the acting profession. We always remained very close, but it wasn't until some years later (when Lynn came home with her British husband....they're now separated) that we once again lived so close to each other. At that point, we had each established our 'identity' and felt free to once again savor the whole 'twin thing!'
We have a younger sister (almost 5 yrs younger) who, like your sister, is very different from us (polar opposite!), so I'm sure she felt the pangs of being a 'singleton.' But she's soooooooooooooo different from us!
Kaye, if you're into sociology (which I love, too), then you should check out twin plastic surgery data. I forget the websites, but do a search for 'twins plastic surgery' and you'll find some interesting articles! Thanks again for your post! You do indeed have "two more twin friends!"
Alice (and Lynn!)