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Hello all. I've been a lurker here since January and reading all posts have been very informative. Anyhoo, long story short, i went OTR on 12/21. I was a 40DDD and now if I am a C, I'm lucky. I told PS i wanted to end up a full c or small D and it doensn't look that way. I am depressed and can't even look in the mirror, not to mention that my stomach is now bigger than my boobs. I seriously just want to cry my eyes out every minute! And worse off, when i voice this to anyone they all have the same response "well, that's what you wanted, now live with it" Talk about no support. Anyway, did anyone else end up smaller than they wanted? If so, how did you deal emotionally and mentally?
THanks for the vent
Dalimat


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Hi,
Don't be depressed yet. Wait until you can get measured. I was depressed about being bigger than I wanted to be, but as of now i'm a full C small D cup. Exactly what the PS told me I was going to be.
I got abdomen lipo because I didn't want to be depressed about my stomach. It gave me a good start but I still need to lose 30 pounds.
You are probably a C, but now your stomach is making your breast look smaller than they really are. Now you have to focus on losing your stomach. I know it's hard!
It's going to be a process but you can do it.
Keep us posted.I wish I would have gotten my breast reduction sooner. Never too late though. Don't be nervous. If you think you need one you probably do.


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I thought I'd be a C, ended up a B....(and my stomach stuck out farther than my breasts, too, at first)....It gave me the incentive to lose the weight and now I am really happy with my new size....I was never really unhappy, just surprised...(I had told the PS I wanted my money's worth, and he complied!) It takes time for the breasts to fall and reshape into a more natural position...it's only been slightly more than a week for you, so definitely give it time...When I first saw the new girls, I thought I was a squared off AAA....Now I am thrilled--they are soft, rounded, and not up to my chin any more! The best advice,,,give it some time before you freak out!BR, Chin/Neck Lipo 6/29/2005; BR revisions and lipo 5/24/2006
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I asked to be a "C" also, and I felt like mine were smaller at first too. I have not been measured, but the PS says they "look good". My stomach definitely sticks out now....before, my boobs covered them up! LOL! Anyway, I know that eventually they will settle into their final shape. My PS said it takes about a year before everything settles. I'm just going with the flow and hoping that I will be able to do sit-ups or crunches to get my stomach down. I'm using this as an incentive to lose wieght that I've needed to lose for years. It does depress me when I look in the mirror and see my budda belly and small boobs, but it makes me want to work harder at getting the extra weight off and getting my body in better proportion. If I suck my stomach in, it looks good, so in the meantime, I'll be wearing girdles!


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Geeze. I agree. No support. That is too bad. Cause that is not what you wanted. But give yourself time. You are only 10 days post op. At first you seem so tiny, but about six weeks they usually "drop and fluff." Then you will probably be bigger. I was and wanted to be smaller than I ended.
I hope you start feeling better. You are going through a lot of stuff with just the healing and you shouldn't have to be worried and crying, I think most of us here say they will be bigger with time. Keep us informed. Good luck.


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Dalimat,
Funny you should mention this, I just now walked by my own reflection. I felt like I looked awful! Hence I logged on here, and here was your post. I went OTR on 12/13. I feel like I look pregnant!! (Can't be because I am post menapause.) I was ROFLOL about the "Buddha Belly" comment BigRed74 made!! (Rub my belly for good luck?!!) I knew I was heavy, but my goodness, I never could see my gut before due to all the boob in the way!!! I laugh at myself, because the biggest surprise to me is that I can see my midrif. I forgot I had one!!
I understand your not wanting to look in the mirror. I too feel like I look sooooooo small now - in comparison to before - the GIRLS are gone but my new girls are here, and boy they are perky! I had HUGE BOOBS!!! NOTHING BUT BOOBS!!! I was shocked too when I saw how small the new girls seem - but Godzilla vs Atom Ant - I'll take Atom Ant. (Showing my age - "Atom Ant")
Someone at work this week asked me if I was going to miss the GIRLS? I feel as though pre op, I said my "good byes" to them, and I am willing to accept the new girls as they are now. So, no I don't think I will miss carrying around those cassaba mellons for the rest of my life!!
You have support here girl friend!
As I was walking the dog, slowly and cautiously, this morning, I realized that I put the belly there, I am responsible for taking it off. The dog and I have a WHOLE LOT of walking to do over the next few years. But I am up for it, are you?
blueheronblueheron/white egret
BR 12/13/2005 - Lost 10.2 POUNDS!!!
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The first couple of days, I was so much smaller than I thought I would be... I looked flat, but, once I got used to seeing less of me, and the swelling started, I looked bigger. I think I am a C, but, right now measuring a D. I thought I looked like an A cup the first time, but realized, I am not used to seeing myself with out the giant bosom...give yourself a good 2 or 3 months and get measured, you might be surprised at your real size!


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Hi. Like married2mrgolf, at first I was almost flat chested...even in my pictures. I didn't mind though, because I really wanted to be a B...even though my ps wanted me a C.
Before stitching me up, he said he went back in and removed more because he knew through my pleads that I wanted to be small. He removed a total of 1411 g's on left and 978 g's on right.
However since my surgery, my boobs seem to be a lot bigger. I measure a C cup and am ok with this, but I would have loved to be a B. I am not kidding...give it some time and as soon as your swelling goes down your boobs should seem a little bigger. I think your entire chest area swells after surgery and it takes time to even out. My pictures are proof that I actually seem bigger after a few weeks OTR.
My tummy is also a problem for me, so I am working on it. I need to lose about 15 pounds. Most people think I have already lost a ton of weight and I always grin and say about 5 lbs (my total breast loss). They have no idea.
Be patient...I think you'll love the new you in time. It is such a major shock right afterwards.
Hugs,
Debbie


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i know just how you feel!! when i finally put on "real clothes" i balled my eyes out. and they weren't happy tears. i couldn't look at myself for a few days either. and that was @ 2 weeks po! it's going to take some time to adjust. i'm 7 weeks po now and more comfortable with my new friends. i think i'm starting to get a liittle fuller as well. and if you feel the need to cry, just cry! you'll feel much better. i'm still not to the point where i would do it again w/o hesitation. this is a very long process and i know it's hard to be patient, but that's all we can do. and the stomach thing happens to a lot of ladies on this board. i felt huge after my surgery. like my body was unbalanced. but, people who don't know that i had the surgery are always a/mmh/product/beauty/index.vm?procid=13" target=_blank>/mmh/product/beauty/index.vm?procid=13" target=_blank>/mmh/product/beauty/index.vm?procid=13" target=_blank>/mmh/product/beauty/index.vm?procid=13" target=_blank>/mmh/product/beauty/index.vm?procid=13" target=_blank>/mmh/product/beauty/index.vm?procid=13" target=_blank>/mmh/product/beauty/index.vm?procid=13" target=_blank>/mmh/product/beauty/index.vm?procid=13" target=_blank>/mmh/product/beauty/index.vm?procid=13" target=_blank>sking me if i've lost weight and i just say yes and continue on my merry way. it also makes me feel better to know that people think i've lost weight when i feel like i gained so much! and i've never wanted to work out more than i do now, so it's kind of a good thing. just try to be patient,which i know is hard to do. but 2 weeks makes a big difference and i'm sure you will feel better about your new breasts soon!


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just read your message, and this is one of the biggest concerns ive been facing for the last 7 months since ive decided to go through with this surgery. if you search the archives, you will see my post from nov.05 on this subject. i am an overweight person with a big belly, but cant see it now due to my 44ddd's. im scheduled for surgery 1/11...and im just freakin out over the surgery part, let alone the few problems ive had just with my PS and scheduling.
i know i will have the big huge belly, ive been trying to get prepared in my mind for it, and after i heal from surgery, i plan on doing what i can physically do to make it better....if not, maybe more surgery in the future for a tummy tuck, but im not looking forward to that one considering i heard that is like the worst surgery in pain and to recover from.
i think the best advice right now is like everyone said, time. after any surgery, it takes awhile to feel better physically and emotionally. i know its hard to take that advice when your living in the moment, so when im on here in a couple weeks with the same complaints-please remind me. i will need all the help i can get too! we are all in this together! so hang in there and in no time you will remember all the positive reasons you had the surgery.
karen


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Hi dalimt, I just had BR 1/20, Im 12 days post op and feel exactly how you did. I wanted to ba a C, PS wanted me to be a D. I think I am a B and its freaking me out. Plus belly looks huge. Just wondering if things have gotten any better for yu. Would love some encouraging words if you have any. Hope your doing better.
Chrissey


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I was and am in the same position. I had my surgery on 11/17 and believe me it was the best thing that i did. I too was so depressed when I got home and realized that i am 8 months pregnant my breast were smaller then i really would have hoped them to be. NOw 2 months later I am happy with my decision but it pushed me more to lose my 50lbs atleast. Dont get me wrong sometimes I do look at myself and the mirror and ask myself should I have just waited until I was in a better physical weight?? I feel I made the right decision and better things now are too come. You will eventually grown into loving them like I did and just do the best that you can to work on what is bothering you.44k to 44C. Loving it. Now I wish my stomach will go. If you have the chance take it.


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Chrissey,
You are only 12 days out like you said. In a few more weeks you will notice a newer you as your breasts will "drop and fluff." I too felt when I was a couple weeks PO that I was going to be that small and high. Many of us found we had stomachs under all that boob and that was discouraging. In my case I was carrying extra weight that I didn't really realize until the truth came out with my surgery. I hope you can feel better and not be depressed.BR 9/21/2005


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hiya,
dont panic about size for a bit yet, wait till things have settled down a bit more before you get measured and things.. I was a j cup before surgery, and asked for a full c small d. well, after surgery i really thought i was a B or something, looking so flat chested. BUT, it takes time for both your body to adjust to having the weight removed, and also for your mind to adjust to such a radical change in body image. It took me a couple of weeks to get over it, but now i am THRILLED because its all about proportion. Plus, once your posture improves you will stand taller and project those lovely new boobs out further
Im now a very happy 34DD. From a j cup thats not too bad
best of luck, you just have to get used to the idea of looking different, it really is a huge change for our brains to get used to!
Renelle


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Hi Chrissey,
I must say that since my original post, I am feeling MUCH better. I am about 6 weeks OTR now. I am finding it difficult to find a bra but as of right now I can fit a 38C/36D in a few bras. My boobs still aren't as I had imagined. I guess I kinda was looking foward to implant-looking boobs, but I really do feel much better overall. The belly is still an issue for me as is the motivation to do anything about it, but it'll come down with time. So, long story short, it does take time to adjust as everyone had so kindly advised me when I posted. I had horrible post op depression for about 3.5 weeks and that too has subsided. THere is a light at the end of the tunnel, just try your best to be patient.
Take care