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When I left work last week for the surgery--I told my coworkers (the ones who needed to know that I'd be out) that I was going on Medical leave--I left the details of having a http://www.makemeheal.com/pictures/viewAlbum.php?albumid=2445


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Yeah I'm with bunbun............it's no one's business. But I can understand if you may feel a little uncomfortable about how to explain the difference.
It's funny because before surgery people made comments about how big the boobies are and then after surgery they make comments about how much smaller they look. Go figure!
You know the saying you can't please em' all, so I say to hell with it and just concentrate on the new you and how much easier it will be get up in the morning and get dressed, button up that shirt without a collection of safety pins to hold you in.
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Today was my first day back at work and the whole body-change thing was the thing i was dreading most. At first everyone just thought I was taking a vacation, but then I had my complication (infection) and ended up out of work for over a month. That started rumors flying and everyone found out I was out having surgery. Most people didnt know what it was for, but I went from a 34H to a 34C, so its a little obvious. Some people told me I needed to eat because I'd lost weight, but one person definitely made me cry... through no fault of his own. This one fellow I had been friends with in the past but had grown apart from. He came in my office and said something along the lines of "Well I know no one wanted to talk about what your surgery was about but I wanted to make sure you were OK." At that point I stood up to go do something and he said "woah, I could make a guess, can I close your door so we could talk" to which I replied "no you can't, and i dont want to talk about it." He seemed annoyed that I didnt want to talk to him, but I was genuinely annoyed at his reaction and I could feel the tears start to well up. So I told him the reason none of my friends were talking about it while I was gone is because I didnt want to talk about it. I told him it was private and that I wanted him to leave. I felt like a pretty big jerk for the reaction I had, but its my life and my story and like other girls here said... if you dont want to talk about it dont. No one can pressure you into it.
Ugh, this topic just irks me!!! Good luck to you and I hope you do better than I did for my first day back!
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I am totally opposite from you ladies. I have been out of work for 5 weeks, but before I went out I decided that people were going to find out anyway. So I told the ones that needed to know, until a close friend of mine brought me a gift. It was floating boobs in a jar - (like gall stones)
I thought it was so funny. So instead of waiting for everyone to talk about me while I was on leave, I shared it with many coworker (teacher in a high school) We all had a lot of fun with it and it made things actually easier for me. You wouldn't believe how many friends came through for me with cards, flowers, food and email. I go back to work in another week. I don't think it will be so bad now, but each of us are different.
Good Luck to you.
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To All of the Ladies that are embarrassed by getting a BR,
There is NOTHING to be ashamed of at all. It's not like you went in for a gastric bypass (not that it's a bad thing) or anything. Most ADULTS would totally undertand the strain that big boobs have on a person and I would hope they'll be happy for you that you've made that important decision. If not then guess what, they aren't really ADULTS. I work for a really small company (only 7 of us right now) and they all know (men and women) that I'm trying to get this done. They have all been really supportive. The men haven't said much , which I'm not surprised, they just don't know what to say and I'm sure don't want to appear inappropriate. I don't care that they know. The women are rooting me on big time. They're sharing stories with me about friends they know that have had it done and feel so much better. This is encouraging to me and I appreciate it.
You all may be surprised at how supportive people can be if you just be open and honest about it. I personally don't see it as a big deal. Anyone in their right minds are going to notice it anyway. Some just won't say anything, because they don't know how to approach it.
Remember the saying when we were younger, sticks and stones might break my bones, but words will never hurt me. Excuse my expression, but FUCK EM' if they do! I would rather get the after comments than continue to receive the comments that you receive from the perverts and the jokes that your friends and family make all the time. I don't care if the world knows, as long as I feel better about myself.
BR is only the beginning of a new found faith. I can tell by the stories I've read from the women that have lost weight since their surgery. Stay proud of yourself, because if you don't, no one will do it for ya! Ok, that was long enough, good luck to all of you that are struggling with the embarrassment issue.


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hey boobies! i feel you! im also thinking about what im gonna tell others if they ask (after my BR). I know some people think it's nothing to be ashamed of, but i think it's very personal. And i know that all of us who had/have to live with huge boobs went (or still go) through rough times and have alot of issues with their boobs. So, im sure we all just wanna get rid of this 'boob issue' for once and for all and not have to deal with people's comments.
i liked what alysunshine said, it;s no one's business. so if anybody asks and u still dont feel like sharing this with anybody then tell them to f%k off!!!!!
i think it's gonna be different for me, because i've distanced myself from people over the past few months/year, and kept isolated....even before i knew i was having this surgery, i just couldnt deal with people's comments anymore and my self consciuosness...so i kinda went in hiding LOL....i can laugh about it now cause soon im gonna come out of my shell and be myself again.
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts--it's so GREAT reading your comments...
Smallerboobssoon, I think you kinda nailed it! It's that fear of being made to feel like "the girl who got a boob job" and ultimately made to feel like a spectacle for something I'm actually quite proud of. It just frustrates me that one of the biggest decisions I've ever made to improve my all around quality of life -- would be thought of as something less than that. Eh, what can you do? It's all good. Just figuring out what it is that you fear makes you better equipped to handle it.
And yes yes yes! I totally agree, bottom line--it is non of anyone's business.FLASH A FRIEND!!
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I have to say that I could care less who knows....this isn't the same as getting colagen in your lips or botox on your forehead (which incidentally I am pro-any surgery that makes a person feel better--how could I not be?)...this is a cosmetic surgery that is covered by insurance (although not mine ) because of the medical implications. I have permanent divets in my shoulders, rashes under my chest, and pain most of the time in my shoulders, back and neck documented for 13 years. I never fit in dresses, button down tops or bathing suits....How could someone judge you for wanting to feel better???? If you had a busted knee, you'd get it fixed and you wouldn't worry about who knew. Same thing. Different body part.
I shared it with all of my co-workers and not one person even batted an eyelash...in fact, 2 others are having similar surgeries after mine. You would be surprised how many people would like to improve themselves...so I think any judgement could even be jealousy.
At the end of the day though, you should march in there with back straight and shoulders up...proud of the new girls and not giving one damn (excuse me) about what those fools in your office think!!!!!!!
I wish you all the luck in your return to work!!! Don't let those women rain on your parade!!


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like many of hte other ladies said, I didnt' care who knew, in fact I made a point to tell people before so that I would not have to deal with thier reactions after surgery when Iwas vulnerable. the only people I didn't tell were people from my job but luckely I wiork at home and by the time people from the office see me again, it will fe fall and they won't know what changed. (I didn't want them to den y my time off) Everyone I told has been very supportive, and when no one asked me "why are you having that done" I realixed I was making a great decision! I hope this helps!!
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i thought i'd put in my "2 cents". I told all my really good friends (including guys) so that they can beat up anyone that tries to make fun of me for it. I go back to school on Monday and I am pretty sure that will work. Yes, I am still in high school so I kind of understand where you are coming from. I have some tough friends too that i told so yea. Also, don't be afraid to catch them off gaurd when they ask what happen and just smile and tell them. I actually feel I look better than before. Good luck girlies! Love you all like sisters!!!!!!


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In my case, there where no secrets at my work-I work in a smaller town hospital. In fact, I ended up being placed on my own unit overnight-I guess they called and requested me to be admitted there. It was nice, but also kind of weird, frankly. They saw my results before I did! They took great care of me, though. They're all women, and have been very supportive except for one who was upset that she had to help cover my shifts. I'm more nervous about seeing my family-my husband is the one who is having a LOT of issues with how I look now-and I can understand it as I look pretty ridiculous at the moment-6'0" tall, and went from a 44G/H to 42 B?C? that looks like nothing. (I was hoping for more like a D, but the plastic surgeon had other ideas I guess) I'm keeping my fingers crossed that a little dropping and fluffing will occur! Anyway, my family is very frank and open and I'm afraid I will start crying if they start saying how flatchested I look! Wish me luck!