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My bf is the opposite - he gets really turned on by the idea that other men are looking at me! So that suits us incredibly seeing as, well, they ARE looking!
But for your problem, I think it's about being patient and reassuring him calmlythat you're not going to run away with a toyboy just because you can dress in sexy clothes and feel great in them!
But at the same, stand your ground. Be firm that the reason you did this was because you wanted to look and feel good and you WILL be wearing the clothes you want to wear.
It is absolutely not up to him what you wear, he may be your husband but you're not his property! Some men need reminding of that - I did used to have a bf many years ago who was very possessive about me and about what I wore and I found the more I gave in, the more he demanded. I did of course dump he in the end. Not suggesting you do that! Just mean to say I understand where you're coming from![url=http://www.TickerFactory.com/]
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Oh you poor darling!!!!!
I know how you feel my EX wouldnt even let me get them in the frist place!!!!! THATS HOW JELLIOUS HE WAS!!!! GOT RID OF HIM!!! not cause of that tho hahaha........
My DH is fantastic tho!!!! He thinks of it like this:
- If i look good i make him look good
- and if im looking sexy then his proud of me
- He loves them and smiles and laughs when he catches other guys looking (SHOW THEM OFF HE SAYS) haha i just got him to proof read this post so i was telling the truth as well hahaha
(the thing is that he knows i wouldnt leave him and that he is the most importing man in my life!) Maybe your DH just needs to be reasured....
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Wow, I feel like Deb does, I must be really lucky because my dh is not the jealous type. I am really sorry that you're having to deal with this Nancy. Everyone is correct that your dh is feeling insecure and he is still a bit immature. He is afraid that you may leave him now that you are sexy and have such a grea body. He may have even been told by a friend that once you got new boobs you would leave him. Our neighbor found out that I was having a ba and told my dh that I would leave him cause everytime a woman get fake boobs she leaves her husband for a man with money. Of course my dh didn't listen to him cause he knows me but if a man is already insecure that can eat away at his self confidence.
You love your husband and plan to stay with him but you also love your self and plan to be your self right? You need to reassure your husband that you did this surgery for yourself and not to get another man to look at you or to find another man. You are not going to hide your body under big clothes but at the same time you are not going to dress like a (insert your own words). You will buy sexy lingerie to wear in the bedroom for him and you will buy cute tops and swim wear to wear for you. This is for you and him and no on else. You do not plan to leave him and he needs to stop worrying as jealousy is an ugly attribute.
Hopefully you can make him see how he is acting is making you unhappy and he will stop his attitude. Talking is always best in solving an issue in a marriage. Good luck.http://www.makemeheal.com/pictures/viewAlbum.php?albumid=1636
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Wow, I feel like Deb does, I must be really lucky because my dh is not the jealous type. I am really sorry that you're having to deal with this Nancy. Everyone is correct that your dh is feeling insecure and he is still a bit immature. He is afraid that you may leave him now that you are sexy and have such a grea body. He may have even been told by a friend that once you got new boobs you would leave him. Our neighbor found out that I was having a ba and told my dh that I would leave him cause everytime a woman get fake boobs she leaves her husband for a man with money. Of course my dh didn't listen to him cause he knows me but if a man is already insecure that can eat away at his self confidence.
You love your husband and plan to stay with him but you also love your self and plan to be your self right? You need to reassure your husband that you did this surgery for yourself and not to get another man to look at you or to find another man. You are not going to hide your body under big clothes but at the same time you are not going to dress like a (insert your own words). You will buy sexy lingerie to wear in the bedroom for him and you will buy cute tops and swim wear to wear for you. This is for you and him and no on else. You do not plan to leave him and he needs to stop worrying as jealousy is an ugly attribute.
Hopefully you can make him see how he is acting is making you unhappy and he will stop his attitude. Talking is always best in solving an issue in a marriage. Good luck.
That is terrific insight Ladykriket! I too am blessed with a non-jealous guy, and I'm so thankful.


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Nancy you are so funny with that one top from Venus, although it is really cute. Men can be so insecure. I still haven't gone out but am hoping my hubby does get a little jealous if i turn some heads. I need some attention from him.
You look awesome girl!!!! Work it!Cheryl
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You guys really are the best bunch of women I've ever "known". I sincerely appreciate all your adivce and time to respond to my worries!
And of course you are all right on with what you've said. You girls with non-jealous hubbys, count your blessings! It's such a pain. He's been this way our entire relationship (we've been together since 16) and I'm used to it but it still gets on my nerves. Like I said before, it got a lot better when I didn't have the boobies (which is a little insulting actually. Did he think men only look at me for my boobs?!) And this is even something we had to discuss before I decided to go ahead with the sx, would he get all weird about people looking at my boobs again. He knows I'm not going to leave him and even he knows his behavior is irrational. When we talk about it, I explain it all over again to him to reassure him but it goes in one ear and out the other.
The good news is that he said to me yesterday "this is better than a new car." He is completely obsessed with vehicles of any kind so he was actually paying me the highest compliment ever!


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I have had a hard time dealing with other men talking to my chest instead of my face since my surgery. I never really had boobs for men to stare at before. I think I was a small c before my kids. Now I know what some of my larger chested friends were talking about. If it is hard for me, I would imagine it is hard on my husband. I don't think he is thinking your going to go out and act like someone different. I think its that he loves you and cares about you and knows what lude thoughts are going through other mens minds and probably dosn't want them to objectify you. I'm sure he will get better as time goes on but we all know men are very territorial. They don't like to share their goodies! Give him some time its and adjustment for both of you. My husband is a lot less paranoid now if I show a little clevage then he was a year ago. (It also helps if you stroke their ego daily too! )"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance."-Oscar Wilde
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Well said DG!!! You hit the nail right on the head! LAURA
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I hear you, I know exactly what your going thru My dh is a very jealous person too. I was totaly shocked when it was his idea to go ahead with getting a ba done. He said at my consult. that I should go to the bigger implant so go figure He was going to buy a new boat but instead he's getting new boobies
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(It also helps if you stroke their ego daily too! )
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(It also helps if you stroke their ego daily too! )
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Oh Deb!!! You have the face of an angel , but you're a BAD GIRL!
And I just looooove it!!!
No wonder your hubby is so darn happy!!!! Lucky, lucky guy!!! LAURA
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OMG.. I SO LOVE these shirts I've bookmarked those suckers to go back and check them out. We're heading to Vegas (conference) May 20th and what a better place to show off the new bode (lol). So, thanks for the links.
NOW.. as far as the jealousy thing. RIGHT THERE WITH YA! Hubby is really insecure right now thinking that I'm going to be flaunting my body all over the place and landing some 'hot- better than him" man. I told the hell that he's put me through for the last 3 years and the fact that I'm still here should say something. But no, now that I have nice boobies he thinks I'm going to leave him for someone else. What? Was I chop liver before I got the boobs? I mean really, what do these men think?
What I want to know is this.. why is it okay for THEM to look at other woman and that's no big deal.. but if another man looks at US, it's a huge deal. Men are just wacked... that's my conclusion.
You BUY that hot shirt and flaunt that sexy bode around..... *Chrystal*
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Deb, you are just toooo onry, aren't you? Or ugh.. did I need to plant an "h" in front of that? (running away now....... )*Chrystal*
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hahahaha!
Sassychick...you sound like ME!!!! And your hubby sounds just like mine! OMG!!!
I can totally relate girl! It makes me feel better to know I'm NOT ALONE!!! LAURA
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