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As a lot of you know from previous posts, my grandfather was diagnosed with Terminal Cancer a few months back. Unfortunately, this wonderful man left us this morning.
I was very grateful however, as I (along with the rest of the family,) was with him during his passing, and got to make sure he knew I love him.
This is a very difficult time for me, as I was the closest to him grandchildren wise than any other in the family. Because of this, I have been asked to write and present his eulogy.
This is a wonderful honour, and I have taken pride in being chosen to do it, however, I have never experienced a death before in my life. I am not quite sure exactly what to say, and what not say and could use a few pointers.
I was wondering if any of you could offer me some advice. I have to present this eulogy by Monday, so help soon and quick would be great. Thanks.
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Splendid! What a wonderful opportunity. I've done lots of eulogies and here is a good formula which you can use if you want to:
1. List his characteristics. Say a bit about what kind of person he was. Was he kind? Gentle? intelligent? If so, then say so.
2. Tell a short sotry about his life. Where did he grow up? What were his parents like? How about his brothers and sisters? (If they are in attendance this will be a bit hit with them.)
3. What was his career? How did he come to find it?
4. How about his wife? How did they meet? That is ALWAYS a good thing to tell the story on. If your grandmother is no longer living then ask an uncle or aunt.
5. Tell a story about you and he. Some things that the two of you did together. Your fondest memories of him perhaps.
6. Wrap us with a line or two about what HE would have to say if he were standing there with you.
If it would be proper etiquette in this situation you can always invite those in attendance to stand and say a few words about him. Before you choose this option be sure to check with other family members.
I think that having a family member do the eulogy is the finest decision that can be made in these situations. Go for it girl. He will be watching so make him proud!
Good luck !
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Theresa, I am very, very sorry about your loss. I know how it feels to lose a grandpa...I've been through it and he to has been the only close relative I have lost and remembered it...the first funeral I went to, actually, so it was a very hard time for me. I just want to say you will get through it and please don't be sad. Just remember death is a part of life and you know where he is...probably in a place far better than the Earth he was on
I also want to tell you what a great honor to be able to speak of your relationship with him! I'd love to be able to do this...I don't know to me it just feels like you'd sort of...I dunno...make everyone else realize how wonderful he was and sort of feel closer to him in a way unimaginable. I just want to say congradulations, and even though he is gone, it is still a wonderful honor to be able to speak about him now that he is gone.
I'm sure he will be watching you from above as you speak, and I know he'll be very proud of you
I wish you the very best of luck, and although I have probably offered you no help since I've never spoke at an eulogy, I hope I have comforted you by letting you know you are not the only one who has experienced this.
Take care, and again I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you are doing OK. I'll be praying for you.
Love,
Ash
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I also want to tell you what a great honor to be able to speak of your relationship with him! I'd love to be able to do this...I don't know to me it just feels like you'd sort of...I dunno...make everyone else realize how wonderful he was and sort of feel closer to him in a way unimaginable. I just want to say congradulations, and even though he is gone, it is still a wonderful honor to be able to speak about him now that he is gone.
I'm sure he will be watching you from above as you speak, and I know he'll be very proud of you
I also want to tell you what a great honor to be able to speak of your relationship with him! I'd love to be able to do this...I don't know to me it just feels like you'd sort of...I dunno...make everyone else realize how wonderful he was and sort of feel closer to him in a way unimaginable. I just want to say congradulations, and even though he is gone, it is still a wonderful honor to be able to speak about him now that he is gone.
I'm sure he will be watching you from above as you speak, and I know he'll be very proud of you
I wish you the very best of luck, and although I have probably offered you no help since I've never spoke at an eulogy, I hope I have comforted you by letting you know you are not the only one who has experienced this.
Take care, and again I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you are doing OK. I'll be praying for you.
Love,
Ash
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I wish you the very best of luck, and although I have probably offered you no help since I've never spoke at an eulogy, I hope I have comforted you by letting you know you are not the only one who has experienced this.
Take care, and again I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you are doing OK. I'll be praying for you.
Love,
Ash
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Well, today was the funeral, and even though I tried my absolute hardest, I still ended up bawling my eyes out while reading my eulogy.
My grandfather was the only father figure I had in my life, so not only was he my Grampy, he was my Daddy too. My Grandmother thought the eulogy was beautiful, and I think my Grampy would have been proud.
Anyway, it is done and over with now, but I will always keep my Grampy in my memories and in my heart. I just remind myself that he is in a much better place now with no more worries, no more pain, and no more suffering.
I send all my love and sympathies to anyone who has ever gone through such a difficult time as I am right now. I know what a terrible feeling it is, and how sorrow can fill our lives. The way I feel is something I wouldn't even wish on my worst enemy. The pain is tremendous.
I am a strong woman though, (at least that's what I like to think
I wish you the very best of luck, and although I have probably offered you no help since I've never spoke at an eulogy, I hope I have comforted you by letting you know you are not the only one who has experienced this.
Take care, and again I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you are doing OK. I'll be praying for you.
Love,
Ash
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Well, today was the funeral, and even though I tried my absolute hardest, I still ended up bawling my eyes out while reading my eulogy.
My grandfather was the only father figure I had in my life, so not only was he my Grampy, he was my Daddy too. My Grandmother thought the eulogy was beautiful, and I think my Grampy would have been proud.
Anyway, it is done and over with now, but I will always keep my Grampy in my memories and in my heart. I just remind myself that he is in a much better place now with no more worries, no more pain, and no more suffering.
I send all my love and sympathies to anyone who has ever gone through such a difficult time as I am right now. I know what a terrible feeling it is, and how sorrow can fill our lives. The way I feel is something I wouldn't even wish on my worst enemy. The pain is tremendous.
I am a strong woman though, (at least that's what I like to think ,) so I will pull myself through. I ask, however, that you please pray for my grandmother because I am not so sure she is going to be strong enough to do it on her own.
Trust me, our family is very tightly knit, so we are lucky and have wonderful support for everyone, ESPECIALLY my beautiful grandma.
Thank you for your time.
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,) so I will pull myself through. I ask, however, that you please pray for my grandmother because I am not so sure she is going to be strong enough to do it on her own.
Trust me, our family is very tightly knit, so we are lucky and have wonderful support for everyone, ESPECIALLY my beautiful grandma.
Thank you for your time.
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One thing that has helped me in recent years when dealing with the lose of a loved one is to remember all of the wonderful memories you have of that person. Don't think about being sad but cherish that warm wonderful feeling that comes with the fond memories.
